Something I've been thinking about lately...

1. Do you have a hard time saying no to others, even when you are very busy, financially broke, or completely exhausted?

2. Are you always sacrificing your own needs for everyone else?

3. Do you feel more worthy as a human being because you have taken on a helping role?

4. If you stopped helping your friends, would you feel guilty or worthless?

5. Would you know how to be in a friendship that doesn’t revolve around you being the “helper”?

6. If your friends eventually didn’t need your help, would you still be friends with them? Or would you look around for someone else to help?

7. Do you feel resentful when others are not grateful enough to you for your efforts at rescuing them or fixing their lives?

8. Do you sometimes feel like more of a social worker than a friend in your relationships?

9. Do you feel uncomfortable receiving help from other people? Is the role of helping others a much more natural role for you to play in your relationships?

10. Does it seem as if many of your friends have particularly chaotic lives, with one crisis after another?

11. Did you grow up in a family that had a lot of emotional chaos or addiction problems?

12. Are many of your friends addicts, or do they have serious emotional and social problems?

13. As you were growing up, did you think it was up to you to keep the family functioning?

14. As an adult, is it important for you to be thought of as the “dependable one”?


If you answered “yes” to a lot of these questions, you may indeed have a problem with co-dependency. This does not mean that you are a flawed person. It means that you are spending a lot of energy on other people and very little on yourself. If it seems that a lot of your friendships are based on co-dependent rescuing behaviors, rather than on mutual liking and respect between equals, you may wish to step back and rethink your role in relationships.If you suspect that your helping behavior is a form of co-dependency, a good therapist or counselor can help you gain perspective on your actions and learn a more balanced way of relating to others.

*found here: http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/are-you-codependent-quick-quiz-reveals-codependency/

Another quiz can be taken here: http://quizilla.teennick.com/quizzes/4513150/are-you-codependent

Do your results indicate you're co-dependent? Do you think you are?